Gloria Steinem and Dorothy Pitman-Hughes, 1972 and 2014
Both by Dan Bagan
Wanna see my cry like a baby? Ask me who these women were.
Hughes’ father was beaten nearly to death by the KKK when she was a kid, and what does she do? Become an activist to try and stop that from happening to other people. She raised money to bail civil rights protesters out of jail. She helped women get out of abusive situations by providing shelter for them until they got on their feet. She founded an agency that helped women get to work without having to leave their children alone, because childcare in the 1970s? Not really a thing. In fact, a famous feminist line in the 70s was “every housewife is one man away from welfare.”
Then she teamed up with Steinman to found the Women’s Action Alliance, which created the first battered women’s shelters in history. They attacked women’s rights issues through boots on the ground activism, problem solving, and communication. They stomped over barriers of race and class to meet women where they were: mostly mothers who wanted better for themselves and their children.
These are women are who I always wanted to be.
Don’t Take Anything Personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
Don’t Make Assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
Always Do Your Best. Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret. "
Laugh: to express mirth, pleasure, derision, or nervousness with an audible, vocal expulsion of air from the lungs that can range from a loud burst of sound to a series of quiet chuckles and is usually accompanied by characteristic facial and bodily movements.
Those who laugh deeply and passionately are so blessed.
I sat for 35-40 minutes in her chair. She Spoke to her coworkers in Vietnamese and they conversed while she kept her eyes on painting my toenails.
But one of them must have said something funny, because she laughed.
She laughed hard
She laughed passionately.
She took a break from my toenails and laughed.
I found my self smiling from ear to ear
I started to appreciate this moment.
I just witnessed the amazing-ness (yes made up word) of laughter.
I knew deep down my Heart that she felt whatever said.
It impacted her.
she took a moment to feel it.
I was amazed, at the simple but profound moment.
I knew nothing of what they discussed.
She made me envy her.
I wanted to understand her language just for a moment so I can feel what she was feeling.
I gave praise for being able to witness that moment.
Which has me smiling each time I think about it.
It was beautiful.
Just let me be.
Your willingness to want to change my thought pattern is alarming.
Let me be.
I like it here.
Got my copies! 🙏💜🌻
❁ i am worthy
❁ i am more than my appearance
❁ i am loved
❁ i am cared for
❁ i am strong
❁ i am beautiful
❁ i am a good person
❁ i am allowed to get rid of the toxic people in my life
❁ my body does not define me
❁ i deserve respect
❁ i deserve good things
❁ i do not need to justify my actions
❁ and most importantly, i can get through anything.